Did you know that according to psychologists, My brain is lacking but my ass is packing shirt there are two types of confidence – epistemic – which involves certainty about knowing that you know what you are doing or something is true. And then there is social confidence which is a measure of your level of confidence in group settings, how you feel about yourself and your interactions. Epistemic confidence about your style comes from having an education in style and colour so you know what really does and doesn’t work for you and how to put your outfits together in a way that’s aesthetically pleasing. You get more of this confidence when you learn what works, have a colour analysis and choose colours you know to be flattering on you and make you look your best and brightest and have built a wardrobe of clothes that really do make you look great. Social confidence gives you a feeling of being comfortable and secure in your own skin and when you have mastered your style, and have outfits you know work, you’ll find that your social confidence increases too, which makes you more attractive. When you’re making your outfit choices each morning, do you have some sort of process of getting dressed? Do you know how to put garments together and then add accessories so that they work in harmony? Do your outfits express your personality from the inside out, showcasing your most positive attributes?. As I discuss in the video above. the process I went through to put this outfit together, I started with wanting to wear the skirt, and then using my knowledge of colour and proportions I chose the other items in the outfit. Having a colour palette where the colours more easily harmonise and work well makes it so much simpler to put outfits together that work, and knowing that those colours are also great on me, making me look more vibrant and alive is always a bonus and helps me to feel more confident. Fortunately, it’s easy for you to get this information too with a personal colour analysis. Then as I mentioned how knowing which shapes of clothes and proportions work in different outfits for my unique body also impacts on choices to decide what is a stylish outfit. Having the education in style, and understanding how each of these elements of your style work together helps you see when something is off, and why it is, so how you can rectify it and then create stylish outfits consistently. Plus you get dressed every day, so the practice you get from doing this when you do it more consciously, putting your style knowledge at work, means that you get better and better at putting fabulous outfits on and this keeps increasing your epistemic confidence which in turn improves your social confidence as you don’t feel that you’ll be judged poorly. If your wardrobe is full of clothes that don’t harmonise with your body or colouring, or that don’t fit well and so make you feel uncomfortable and not look fabulous, you’ll find it impossible to feel consistently stylish.

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When we have a big transformation in our lives, My brain is lacking but my ass is packing shirt or have come through to the other side of an uncertain time, this is a great invitation to reinvent your style for the you that you are today, rather than who you were before. Reassessing your style to see if it’s who you are now and that it will aid you in moving your life forwards to where you want to go is an important aspect to your style. Getting stuck in a rut makes others believe that you are not current, or forward-thinking, and that you don’t move with the times. One of my Personal Styling students wrote in an assignment where she had to assess her own wardrobe and asked about what it was communicating to her (if she pretended that it wasn’t her own wardrobe): “I’d say the owner of the wardrobe is young, casual, low-key, can be fun, but mostly doesn’t like attention, likes to be comfortable. This was an interesting exercise because that’s not at all how I’d like to be presenting myself! I’d like to feel more sophisticated and tailored on an everyday basis.” Just noticing what your wardrobe is saying – imagine it’s not yours, and see what it says to you, can be so revealing – and like my student, you may decide to transform your style to where you want to go, rather than where you’ve been. You may not even be aware that your style has stagnated, as you’ve not been thinking about your style and have just kept on wearing the same sorts of clothes year in, year out. Style Rules (or what you think of as style rules) may be keeping you in a rut, if you haven’t reassessed what these rules really mean to you and if they are still relevant. And this is just a small part of our Your Type of Style program (which only opens once a year) that gives you the opportunity to figure out what puts you in a style rut, where style rules fit in your life and style, and how you can approach your style in a way that makes you feel authentically stylish every day. What’s your internal motivation with regards to style ruts and how you know if you’re in one or not? I’d love to know – tell me in the comments.